I am happy to share a post with you from Lori Harder! If you don’t know Lori.. well ..where have you been the last couple years??? lol. Here is a bit about Lori. You may know her from your monthly Oxygen magazines where the last few months has been in every issue looking more beautiful in each. She is a Personal Trainer, Model, CSF ambassador, an ISS sponsored athlete, a figure / bikini competitor and places at least top 3 in most shows she has done. This women is simply amazing. Not to mention she is a loving wife and so sweet to everyone she meets. I read this blog from Lori and had to re-post it. It “hits the nail on the head” as they say. I could not have said this any better. Enjoy and make sure to check out Mrs. Harder’s new website!
Hello Everyone!
I had a client ask me the other day if any of my clients who are successful in reaching their goals begin to receive criticism when they start to lose noticeable weight. The answer I told her was “YES, all of them!”
There are so many transformations going on with clients that are successful that even they don’t realize. When you are over weight and unhappy there are reasons and actions that got you to that place. In order to lose the weight, become stronger and keep it off, a complete lifestyle makeover begins.
When you start changing into the healthy person you want to be, this will affect some people in your life. You may not be as available for them in the ways you were before… Remember Jane who you meet for happy hour and appetizers every Monday after work? You’d sit for hours and drink 2-for-1 wine while you complain about everyone you know, right? How about Jill who loves to get together with you to watch the Bachelor and demolish a large deep dish, Chicago style pizza? I am not even going to mention what happens when you travel to the in-laws house for the weekend… Now I am not saying you have to get rid of Jill and Jane and avoid your mother-in-law’s cooking like the plague, but I am saying you have to change what you do when these situations come up again.
There are so many things we can do to replace our old unhealthy habits. If you are going to be somewhere visiting for a meal, be sure you offer to help cook. I like to always bring a dish and a veggie tray. This is especially appreciated when you are a host. Instead of going for cocktails ask your friends to sign up for a new class at your gym. The list of things you can still do for fun are endless! Try these ideas: go to a movie and grab a salad out, plan a night of cooking some healthy food together, shop, get coffee and pedicures, or rent a movie and order some healthy take-out sushi. I don’t know about you, but this all sounds pretty fun to me!
Now, I understand that not all people are going to be “on board” with your new healthy lifestyle — this is where you have to weigh what makes you truly happy. Was it the couple of hours, 1-2 nights a week that kept you from hitting your goals? Or is it feeling great, having endless energy and getting everything you want out of life?
We all deserve to be happy and that means that sometimes we will have to make sacrifices in order to do so. You will have so much more support if you try to include people in a positive way during your journey. Remind them why you need this and let them know how much it means to you to take control of your life and try to achieve real happiness! If you are still including them in your life, they have no reason to be upset with you. Most likely you will find they are after the same thing;)
Thanks for listening!
Lori Harder
